Eye Opener

As you all know back in August we headed back to Michigan… Let me give you a bit of a run down of why, and what really happened when we arrived, with keeping it as simple as possible. First off, I have really bad anxiety, you mix my anxiety with my husband’s bi-polar and things tend to happen that shouldn’t.

Back in May I said somethings to my husband I shouldn’t have, this triggered his anger and he quit his job. He really didn’t want to, but if you know how bi-polar works, then you will understand. This in turn freaked me out, we had a little money to get us by.

Well, my dad begged us to come up there, he stated since he is “disabled” I could get paid from the state to help care for him. I was thinking with that money, and what little I make online we would be fine… Brief on my dad… my dad has never been a good dad, I MEAN NEVER… when I was 13 I pretty much told him to get lost. It took many years before I allowed him back into my life, I like to give people a chance, and I thought he had changed.

Another BIG MISTAKE… I had only been talking to him on the phone for about 6 years, and he had came to Tennessee a few times to visit. Anyways, I talked my husband into moving back to Michigan (he hates it there, but loves me so agreed). We get to my dad’s place… and just watching some of the things my dad was doing, we knew he was playing the system. He could do an awful lot for a disabled person, he made sure when he was in public he had his cane…

Everything he stated turned out to be lies, he basically got me up there to be his personal bitch… my husband and I did everything, his yard was a wreck his home was disgusting… we didn’t have much money and was struggling, my dad’s disability was almost triple what I was making, but I was purchasing all the household items, as well as doing all his running around on my gas…When I tried to get paid for the things I was doing, we were informed he made to much for the help… his comment to me was “it’s okay I know how to work the system, you will get paid, just don’t worry about things”.

His vehicle worked when he wanted it too, he expected me to jump when he said jump, he would make remarks to my daughter about how I was going to do things whether I wanted to or not… I also found out, he was telling people he couldn’t afford his bills, because he was supporting my family. UNTRUE, I have proof showing I paid for it all!!! He spent all his money on stupid crap. He was jealous because I got packages in the mail all the time, so he started ordering stupid shit from publishers clearing house…

Fast forward, I confronted him about all the crap, informed him we would be coming back to TN and I would have my items from his home before the end of the month. He then stated he was going to throw it all outside, and I let him know if he did he would be sorry… at this time he told me, his words… “you will be dead before I will be”. Yup, my dad threatened to kill me…

Did I mention I had also been paying his cell phone bill for almost 5 years? Well, I made sure to let him know, at that time he threw the phone at me, and I removed the sim card…

The next day we were to go get our things, I new things would be ugly. I tried to talk my husband into waiting, however, my husband was not having it, for the simple fact all his daddy’s items were in the home… his dad is gone, those items cannot be replaced, so my husband wanted our things out before he had a chance to throw them out… So my husband goes ahead of us, and my dad comes out like a bad ass and attacks my husband… but he is “disabled”. He wasn’t too disabled to charge my husband and knock him down, and he sure the hell didn’t have his cane.

I am sure you can imagine what happened next, my husband ended up in a bit of a legal mess, and it took us another 2 months before we were able to leave the state, due to the legal mess.

During this whole event my dad did nothing but lie about my family to his family… (my aunts, cousins, and so forth) Everyone of them took to facebook talking trash, and they are lucky I wanted out of Michigan, or I would have sued them for slander.

So as you can see the short time I was in Michigan it was pretty much drama and hell, but it’s okay… it opened my eyes to a lot of things, and I realize my dad will always be trash, he will never change and he can sit in his nasty trailer and rot…

Bottom line, my dad and all his family… was jealous with the fact that I know how to make money online, and I was making more than the ones, who were working. They all felt just because I didn’t leave the house to work, I didn’t have a real job, and I was nothing but a lazy ass… joke is on them.

I don’t need the stress or drama in my life, I am dealing with a lot already. I am glad to put that part of my life behind me, and to move forward. The move did have some positive to is though…

It brought my husband and I closer, it made us understand eachother better. It opened my eyes on many things, I now know that not everyone deserves a second chance, and that some people were just born to be trash. It allowed me to reconnect with my mom, and gave me 7 awesome months with my sister and my nieces and nephew.

Lesson has been learned, now it is time to put the pieces of my life back together and move forward.